Everyone has their own formula for happiness. For me, my ultimate ingredient is be mindful. Actually, I just perceive this vocabulary recently when everyone talking about this. I think it fits to my meaning to be aware of our presence to then be prepare for it. Right now I'm talking about being presence as a mother. One of my friend has ask to me whether I have baby blues or post-partum depression. I can't say that I don't have it-I'm not an expert-, but I do aware this will be happen to the newly mom. I do have stress, though. When I pregnant with my first child, I look for every possibilities that will happen to me to be prepared. The three principal for my parenting tips are below.
1. Love myself first before love my baby
The love is an energy to transfer. I have to have it first before giving it to someone else. If I don't love myself, then how to give love to my baby? For me, how to love myself is to fulfill my primary need at first. If I hungry, I will eat even when the baby cries. It will take at least 5 minutes to eat than be cranky for I don't know how long. I have to take a shower at least twice a day. The smell of a breastfeeding mom for a day is musty, I admit, and it affect my mood. How we appear also shows our mood. I say a good appearance for a good mood. What if the baby cry when it's time to have shower and take care of myself? I will let them cry, at least 10 minutes for a good day with my baby.
2. Aware that baby communicates with cry
Meaning the baby will cry a lot. Try to be calm when they do, take a deep breath and try to understand what they're trying to tell us. Find out their meaning of crying if not by reading on related sources or ask the doctors. Theories might be good to help, but your experience is better. Also they say, baby can sense your feeling, so try to be calm, calm, calm.
3. Do 5 times prayer
As a moslem, it is not only obligation but also time to recharge my spiritual. I say it is difficult when it is time to pray, but the baby is crying if I am away. Usually, I will wait until the baby is asleep. However, there is time so short like maghrib prayer. I cannot be 'khusyuk' if I hear the baby cry when I pray. So, I must carry him though imperfect prayer movement (Hope Allah recognize my prayer).
Saturday, September 14, 2019
Wednesday, September 11, 2019
New Chapter of My Life
It's been a long time since I open this blog. Four looong years. Now, I'm a mother with two kids, 3 yo and 4 mo. Being a mother is overwhelming. Happy to be but challenging in the process. So many things I want to share. I wrote, but never finished let alone posted. It feels like many wires are tangled in my head. So let's start writing and posting. It's time to tidy up my mind. It's time to be more productive.
I am happy as a mother that stays at home. I have a beautiful memory with my mom who always participate in every my milestones. I want to give those too to my children. I am happy because my life is simple. I can focus on taking care of my children because of my husband. Thanks to him to let me have helper to do chores. Thanks to him to fully support our family needs.
Be mindful is an ultimate key to happiness to do role as a mother. I am aware to be only a housewife is tedious. No career to achieve. No one to impress. No fancy things to wear. Another key is to be grateful, then my head would not be explode with everything I had to have.
Not that being a housewife is an easy task, I find it is so challenging. It is about prioritization. I was a working mother once, then I quit when my firstborn is 7 mo. I always wanted to take care my children by myself, so quitting a job is an option. Though I'm not regret to quit my job, boredom sometimes haunting me. Not that a day feels longer, on the contrary it feels shorter. I found that 'mind and soul' is the most important resource to manage over 'time' when I thought so. My activities are quite similar from day to day, but I'm far from becoming an expert.
That is all for now. Note that I need two days to finish this writing. Note that I don't always have ideas to write. Not that it takes time to write good sentence. I believe those take time and practices. I hope I can post regularly. :)
I am happy as a mother that stays at home. I have a beautiful memory with my mom who always participate in every my milestones. I want to give those too to my children. I am happy because my life is simple. I can focus on taking care of my children because of my husband. Thanks to him to let me have helper to do chores. Thanks to him to fully support our family needs.
Be mindful is an ultimate key to happiness to do role as a mother. I am aware to be only a housewife is tedious. No career to achieve. No one to impress. No fancy things to wear. Another key is to be grateful, then my head would not be explode with everything I had to have.
Not that being a housewife is an easy task, I find it is so challenging. It is about prioritization. I was a working mother once, then I quit when my firstborn is 7 mo. I always wanted to take care my children by myself, so quitting a job is an option. Though I'm not regret to quit my job, boredom sometimes haunting me. Not that a day feels longer, on the contrary it feels shorter. I found that 'mind and soul' is the most important resource to manage over 'time' when I thought so. My activities are quite similar from day to day, but I'm far from becoming an expert.
That is all for now. Note that I need two days to finish this writing. Note that I don't always have ideas to write. Not that it takes time to write good sentence. I believe those take time and practices. I hope I can post regularly. :)
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